As a stay at home dad, I know what it’s like.
I know the emotional pain, the guilt, and the frustration. You see, us men are wired differently than women. Things, to us, are black and white. Right and wrong. We’re not interested in complication.
Emotional pain is tough. Our wives tell us that it’s ok, that they’re not with us for our money, that what we do at home counts. But for us, taking care of the kids, cooking, cleaning, doing laundry…it’s not that it’s not for us. It’s that it’s not our JOB. Stay at home dads everywhere experience the guilt of watching their wife go to work every day to support them. To pay the bills for them. It’s frustrating. We struggle with this frustration EVERY day.
You see, when God made Adam and Eve, He created Adam for the work. He was to take care of the garden. He was to name the animals and rule them. He was to fill the earth with his descendents.
When He created Eve, it was because He saw that Adam needed a “helpmeet”. Someone to help him when he fell behind, someone to meet those needs that arose from his loneliness. This is hard-wired into us men. So being a stay at home dad is harsh, rough thing to go through. We know we weren’t made to sit back and let her do the work. We know that we were the ones designed to do the hard work. Keep in mind, I’m not talking badly about our wives, or implying that they’re weaker or inferior. Because God made them for us. He made them to meet our needs by loving us the way nobody can. By knowing just the right thing to say. By being the comfort we need when we don’t know how to express our emotions. And just knowing that they know, without us having to explain, is worth more than anything in the world to us, even though most of us could never put it into words. So in all honesty, I’m complimenting our wives. Because they do that job better than anybody else could, and we are meant to love them, cherish them, and lead them, both financially and spiritually.
Almost every stay at home dad deals with things like depression, frustration, disappointment, and a feeling of failure.
Now, I can’t really say that I’m old fashioned, that I don’t want my wife to work. I know that SHE wants to work, that she enjoys her job very much. But here’s the difference, and every stay at home dad knows what I’m talking about: I don’t want her to HAVE to work. I want her to work because she WANTS to, and because that’s what she enjoys. I have nothing against a woman working. In fact, read Proverbs, chapter 31. It describes a woman that is successful in her marriage, in her home, and in her BUSINESS. My wife has done the same. She has made herself incredibly valuable to her company because she works hard, and has a great attitude.
But that’s not enough for me.
I don’t want to be a stay at home dad any longer.
It’s not enough to be a stay at home dad, and here’s why:
WE want to be the one providing for our family, protecting them, meeting their needs. And while we do meet some needs, us stay at home dads do it haltingly, awkwardly. It happens this way because we’re simply not wired for it. It’s not in most of our inward ‘toolboxes’. Is that to say we shouldn’t wash dishes, or do laundry? Definitely not. But let’s face it, my wife can do dishes four times faster than me, get them cleaner, AND cook at the same time. She’s magical when it comes to doing this stuff. I see her in action sometimes, and I’m just awestruck at how she can clean a bathroom TOP TO BOTTOM in seven minutes flat. I’m talking cabinets, shower, toilet, counter, sink, floor, trash, mirror, and towels. Seven minutes. No kidding!
So let’s move on to the whole reason I’m writing this:
Right now, you and I are going to start changing the meaning of stay at home dad. We’re here at home anyway, right? We use the computer a lot anyway, right? We want to give our wives the OPTION of working, the WANT to work, instead of the HAVE to work. We want to give our wives and our children a much better life.
I have learned how to make money from home, using my computer, and I’m loving every minute of it. I am no longer a stay at home dad. I’m a work from home dad! And after all this time of trying to find a way to make a living and still take care of our wives and children, I’ve finally found a way. A PROVEN way that works. I am well on my way to being the provider that we all know us men are made to be. This has been an incredible journey, but it’s still just starting.
Would you like to pay all the bills? Would you like to still spend lots of time with your kids? Would you like it if your wife didn’t have to stress about how much her check will be? How much of the tension in your relationship comes from financial struggle? What if the financial problems weren’t there? What if YOU could be a work from home dad instead of a stay at home dad? How would that improve your relationship with your wife? With your kids?
It’s what all us men want, and it’s within our reach. How do I know? Because I’m doing it. I’m finally free from the STRESS. I’m finally free from the TENSION. I’m finally free of the FRUSTRATION and GUILT. I’m FREE!
But that’s not enough for me either. Why? If you’ve read this far, it’s because you’re a stay at home dad too. It’s because you know exactly where I was, and because you want to go with me as I free myself of this weight.
Change your life. Change your family’s life. Show them what financial freedom is like. Give them the example of the life you hope they’ll have when they grow up. Be the man you want to be, for your wife and your kids. Say goodbye to the life of a stay at home dad and become a WORK FROM HOME dad!.